Letting Go of Resentment: Healing Starts with You

kim Wymer
May 18
3 min read

Hello light seekers,

Most of my early life before the many years of learning teaching and coaching, believe me when I say I held a lot of resentment in my mind, body and aura, that totally did not help or serve me.

Resentment is a heavy feeling—one that weighs down the heart and clouds the mind. It often lingers after we've been hurt, especially when the other person doesn’t even realize the damage they’ve done. But here’s the truth: holding on to resentment doesn’t punish them—it only hurts you.

When we choose to hold onto anger, bitterness, or unforgiveness, we’re not protecting ourselves—we’re poisoning ourselves. As the saying goes,

“Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”

The pain we carry becomes our own burden, not theirs.

It’s easy to think that holding onto those emotions gives us control or keeps us safe from being hurt again. But in reality, it often does the opposite—it keeps us trapped in the past and disconnected from our peace.

And it’s not just about forgiving others.

Sometimes, we also need to forgive ourselves. Whether it's guilt, shame, or regret, holding onto negative emotions for too long can damage our self-worth and dim the light we carry inside.

Be kinder to yourself too.

Lessons That Can Help You Forgive—and Heal

1. Resentment Hurts You More Than It Hurts Them

Most of the time, the person you're angry with might not even know they hurt you—or they’ve moved on. But if you’re still carrying that weight, you’re the one reliving the pain.

Lesson: Choose peace over punishment. You deserve to feel free and light—not bound by what someone else did or didn’t do.

2. Forgiveness Isn’t Approval—It’s Release

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you agree with what they did. It means you’re choosing to stop letting it control your heart and emotions.

Lesson: You get to decide what stays in your story. Forgiveness lets you write a new chapter—one where you’re stronger, wiser, and more in control.

3. Healing Requires Self-Compassion, Too

We all make mistakes.

If you're holding onto guilt for something you said or did, don’t let it define you. You can't heal if you're constantly punishing yourself

.Lesson: Forgive yourself the way you would forgive someone you love. When you let go of shame, you make room for growth, confidence, and inner peace.

Freedom Lives on the Other Side of Forgiveness.

Resentment and unforgiveness may feel like protection, but they quietly chip away at your joy, self-esteem, and peace. Choosing to forgive—even without an apology—frees your heart from a weight it was never meant to carry. And choosing to forgive yourself? That’s where true healing begins.

You are not weak for letting go. You are strong for choosing love over bitterness, peace over pain, and growth over grudges.

Its The Weight You Don’t Need to Carry Anymore.

Choose the light of love in your heart instead.

Pull back your loving power.

It is why you are here, beautiful being x

Love Kim xxx

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